Is a family man the way to go? I’ve always heard to pay attention to the way a man treats his mother because it’s a reflection of the kind of person he is. But never did I hear the backfire. The negative of a family man.
At first you love it, I’m huge on family. When I was younger, my entire family lived in New York and my dream of having a huge family in the future grew. I’ve always said I wanted 5 kids, six maximum. Having so many uncles, aunts, and cousins around, there was always a party. I loved coming together as a family. The food, the gossip, the funny stories, the dancing, the music, you couldn’t be upset. Growing up, my big family was everything I wanted for the future. But eventually everyone moved to Florida but my immediate family.
With every boyfriend I’ve had, I’ve been adopted into the family by one member or the other. I never had problems with parents until my sons father’s family but that’s a list of problems I rather not relive. But never did I ever think that having a boyfriend who was all about family, something I looked for, would be a problem. I bask in joy with the family get togethers, the hilarious stories, the endless birthdays. Never did I think about: with the list of people, which number am I?
I’ve never minded being placed second after a man’s mother. I believe that’s the way it should be. A man’s mother is their first love. I know I’m at my happiest when my son looks at me with those big brown eyes as if he could love no one more than myself. But what about the rest of the family? Do I have to be placed at the bottom of the list because YOU have so many members? Or do I eventually get placed above after an accomplishment? Am I in a competition that I didn’t know about? Can we play kickball? I’m really good at kickball. How do you get to the top of the list when you date a family man? How do you get the man you love to put you before his family every once in while? It doesn’t have to be all the time, just some times. Seriously though, I’m really good at kickball.